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Tamura Toshiko was born in 1884 in Tokyo; her father was a rice merchant and her mother had been a singer and actress. Her original name was Sato Toshi. Her family moved even more frequently than the norm for the day, so that by the time she was fifteen she had attended at least five elementary and secondary schools. She started university but dropped out after a year due to ill health (or possibly boredom). Subsequently she studied writing with the novelist Koda Rohan (brother of Nobu), whose laid-back personality she admired, although she found his classical style confining. Her first short story was published in 1902.

She continued to write while also spending five years or so training as an actress, attending Kawakami Sadayakko’s acting school as one of the first students. She was particularly interested in the intersection of actresses with the onnagata women’s roles traditionally played by men. Like Okada Yachiyo, she wrote her own version of A Doll’s House in a play in which the wife takes control of her husband.

In 1909 she became the common-law wife of the writer Tamura Shogyo (they had fallen in love six years earlier, but waited to move in together while Shogyo studied in America), also a disciple of Rohan’s. He came to her one day brandishing a newspaper advertisement for a writing competition, of which the winner’s work would be serialized; Toshiko was at first unwilling to try anything so commercial, but finally gave way to his shouting and nagging, sat down at her desk, and submitted a novel on the day of the deadline. She won the prize.

Further stories, often autobiographical, were published in Hiratsuka Raicho’s Bluestocking (although Toshiko had visited the magazine’s offices and wondered aloud whether these spoilt young women were capable of putting together a journal on their own) and in the leading literary magazines of the time, acquiring for her a reputation for a sensual style and a sensitivity to social injustice against women. Although she was now capable of supporting the household with her writing, Toshiko lost patience with her husband’s disinclination to work and moved out, spending her money as she chose and enjoying various relationships which included one with the Russian translator Yuasa Yoshiko, among other women. Able to do anything she turned her hand to, she also held an exhibition of fan paintings and handmade dolls with the artist Takamura Chieko.

In 1918, Toshiko left her husband for good to follow the reporter Suzuki Etsu to Vancouver (after a frantic exchange of letters), where they both worked on the editorial board of the local Japanese newspaper. She was to live there for eighteen years, marrying Suzuki and continuing to work as an editor and journalist involved in unionization and women’s issues among the Japanese-Canadian community, before returning to Japan upon Suzuki’s death in 1936.

She picked up her career as a novelist once again after returning to Japan, writing about Japanese immigrants abroad, but found herself better known for her affair with Kubokawa Tsurujiro, a writer and activist married to the better-known Sata Ineko. After the publication of a novel based on the affair, she left Japan in 1938 for Shanghai, where she edited a women’s literary magazine published in Chinese (and largely staffed by Communists, in accordance with Toshiko’s own increasingly leftist views). She died in China of a stroke in 1945, just before the end of the war, at the age of sixty-one. In 1961, her friends founded the Tamura Toshiko Prize for women’s writing, funded by her royalties.

Sources
Mori 1996, 2008
https://unseen-japan.com/tamura-toshiko-the-new-woman-feminist-in-early-modern-japan/ (English) Detailed article which also includes photographs

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17/8/25 01:20
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Dear Care and Feeding,

My mom lives several states away. We see her a couple times a year, but my children don’t know her well because of the distance. Meanwhile, my sister lives around the corner from her, so her kids have a completely different relationship with “Grandma” than mine do.

She recently visited us, and I needed her to pick my 8-year-old up from day camp. It would be just the two of them for a few hours before I got off work, something that hasn’t happened before—usually I’m around or my sister’s kids. Well, that day, my son did not have a good time at camp and apparently didn’t talk much after pickup. He was even quiet with me once we met up. My mom said that she had to spend all afternoon with my son, and he wouldn’t talk to her. We had planned to get ice cream together, but my mom asked me to drop her off at the house instead.

She later told me that my son needs to be taught how to respond to people. I have tried reading him books about interacting with people, I have role-played with him and read many articles on how to help him. I don’t know how to make my shy, sensitive child respond to people he is uncomfortable with. Do you have tips? How can I help my mom to have a better relationship with him?

—Grandma/Grandson Mediator


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17/8/25 01:16
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Dear Prudence,

My husband got totally hammered at my sister’s wedding and somehow ended up falling into the wedding cake. I reimbursed them for the cost of it and made my husband write a letter of apology, but they are still furious, as are more than a few family members. What can we do to mend fences?

—Cake Catastrophe


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Creative Jam

16/8/25 01:04
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Welcome to the 146th Crowdfunding Creative Jam! This session will run Saturday, August 16-Sunday, August 17. The theme is "Inner vs. Outer Strength."

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Okada Yachiyo was born in 1883 in Hiroshima, the youngest daughter of a prominent doctor; her older brother was the innovative theater director Osanai Kaoru, and she was also a distant cousin of the painter Foujita Tsuguharu. When she was two years old her father died and her mother moved the family to Tokyo, where they frequently attended the theater and Yachiyo went to Kyoritsu Girls’ Vocational School, graduating in 1902. Encouraged by her brother and his friends, she began to publish her writing (both fiction and theater critique) in various literary magazines, including Yosano Akiko’s Myojo [Morning Star].

In 1906, she married the artist Okada Saburosuke (the marriage was arranged by Mori Ogai, husband of Shige), who used her as a model for several well-received paintings. Yachiyo herself continued to write and became a frequent contributor to Hiratsuka Raicho’s Bluestocking magazine. Her 1912 one-act play Tsuge no Kushi [The Boxwood Comb] is considered an answer of sorts to Ibsen’s A Doll’s House; its heroine O-Tsuna, who has left her home and her husband, longs at one point to return. In addition to writing Yachiyo was, like her brother, involved in theatrical production; she ran a children’s theater which performed from 1922 to 1930, and later a troupe of young actors which was active from 1935 to 1939.

In 1926, the Okadas’ marriage broke down and Yachiyo walked out, briefly taking up with an actor in Osaka; although never officially divorced, she and Saburosuke lived separately until his death in 1939. They made up temporarily in 1930 and visited Paris together; Yachiyo remained there until 1934.

She was a close friend of the editor Hasegawa Shigure, working with her on the first, short-lived version of the Nyonin Geijutsu [Women’s Art] journal and later in the wartime Kagayaku Kai [Shining Group] which supported Japanese troops overseas (she also visited colonial China for this purpose in 1941).

After the war she continued to write essays and playscripts, as well as editing and directing; in 1948 she founded the Japan Women Playwrights’ Association. She died in 1962 at the age of seventy-nine.

Sources
Mori 2008

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14/8/25 20:38
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Dear Care and Feeding,

I’ve got a 14-year-old son and 9-year-old twin daughters. My son lives primarily with his mom, but has always spent plenty of time at my place, and the kids are all quite close. But there is a real problem with how he treats one of his sisters. The two of them share many traits and are quite similar in disposition, and when things are good, they have a very sweet relationship. They’ll go on walks together and chat and laugh the whole time. They also really enjoy play-fighting—e.g., hitting each other with foam swords. But at other times, my son will relentlessly pick at his sister, teasing her for things like not being as good at video games as he is, or questioning her abilities in other ways. It’s unkind, and although she sometimes claps back or does her best to ignore him, more often it sends her into a rage.

I’ve talked to him about it repeatedly (and yelled at him about it), and he has said he has trouble controlling himself. Maybe that sounds like a cop-out, but having observed it so many times, I believe him. It seems like an impulse-control thing, like the comments pop into his head and are out of his mouth before he can stop them. We have a good amount of neurodivergence in our family, and I strongly suspect that, like the sister in question, he’s got ADHD. I’ve wanted to get him assessed, but his mom—with whom I have a good relationship—is resistant, and he hasn’t had any issues in school yet that would offer more reason to push for it. I’ll tell him to knock it off and he’ll be chastened, but then 30 seconds later he’s picking on his sister again. What do you think I should be trying to do here? Yelling obviously isn’t the answer, and I can tell my son is feeling demoralized. I feel like this is about their similar personalities to some extent, because he doesn’t have the same issue with his other sister. But even if that’s the case, I want him to stop cutting his sister down, because she adores him and I’m pretty sure he actually adores her too.

—Bro, Chill


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I no longer live in the District of Columbia. But, in more ways than I can say, the District is home. The District in my opinion (and per my vote in 2016) deserves statehood. I hope in my lifetime to read about the election for the first governor of Douglass Commonwealth.

The President's imposition of martial law -- which is what using military for police functions is -- in the District is made possible by racism. DC is majority-minority. Although the black population is below 50% of the total these days, the white population is still under 40% of the total population of the District.

As a former Advisory Neighborhood Commissioner (an unpaid, non-partisan, local elected position), I can tell you that the crime rate went up during the 2008-10 recession, but was still nowhere near the rates found from 1975-1995. Violent crimes have continued to decrease. Robbery and theft go up when unemployment goes up, but the overall rates are still low. Rarely are tourists affected by any crime, though there was a spate of purse snatchings in the early 2010s.

What Trump and his supporters detest is the fact that most DC police are black. It's a disconnect for them. For too many, black=criminal and white=police. By calling in the National Guard and the other police forces associated with the District (Capitol Police, Metro Police, the US Marshalls, FBI Police...), Trump is attempting to make the optics match his expectations. There are indications that New York City, Los Angeles, Chicago, and Oakland (all of which have minority mayors, all of which are in states whose electoral votes went to his opponents) will probably be next if he gets away with it in DC.

The President also resents that DC's electoral votes have gone to his opponents in all three elections. Even people who loathed Hillary Clinton voted for her in DC because we recognized that she was a fundamentally serious person and our current president is not.

I am asking everyone to call or email their Senators (or Congress people) and object to this blatant misuse of the military. If you can object as a veteran who recognizes that this isn't the military's purview, that's great. If you want to object on Constitutional lines, before DC had home rule, Congress -- mostly the Senate -- had the right of rule over the District of Columbia. Even Republican Senators should be willing to guard their own rights to shape and control the District. That power has never really belonged to the Executive.

For anyone who's interested, DC voted in favor of statehood in a 2016 referendum. Among other items, it gave us the potential future name of Douglass Commonwealth so that we could retain DC for postal services. If you think we're too small, by area to be a state, we're larger than the three smallest countries in the world. If you think we lack population, we have more people than Vermont or Wyoming, and we're within spitting distance of Alaska.

Overall, DC paid income tax of $45,243,625 (in thousands of dollars) in Fiscal 2024. North Dakota, West Virginia, Wyoming, Alaska, Vermont, and Puerto Rico combined paid income tax of $44,810,347 (in thousands of dollars). The District of Columbia deserves a say in how U.S. tax dollars are spent.

Please call your Senators and/or Representative to object to the deployment of the National Guard in DC.
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DEAR HARRIETTE: As parents, I'm sure most of us have experienced a squabble or disagreement between our kids. I definitely have, but they're usually short-lived. Currently, two of my girls aren't speaking and haven't been for a few months. This all started because my older daughter made a joke about me owing her back pay because my younger daughter's college tuition was more expensive than hers. My younger daughter, who is usually quite docile, blew up at the comment. She called her older sister ungrateful, rude and spoiled. They argued like I've never seen before, and they haven't spoken since. I tried talking to my younger daughter about it, but she won't apologize. I don't think her sentiments were wrong; the joke was in poor taste. I think as a family we should never be so hostile toward each other. How do I get my girls back on track? -- Family Disagreement

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DEAR HARRIETTE: Over the years, my mom and I have struggled to forge the ideal smooth-sailing mother-daughter bond that other people have. We used to bump heads a lot. Now that we no longer bump heads, we just have a hard time connecting and enjoying each other. I want things to get better, but she often compares my relationship with her to the one I have with my dad. My dad and I are pretty playful together, and he's easy to talk to. I think my mom constantly mocking the dynamic I have with my dad is her version of banter or "breaking the ice," but I wish she would stop comparing so that she and I could find our own groove. How do I get her on the same page as me? -- Mommy Issues

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