Database maintenance

25/10/25 08:42
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Good morning, afternoon, and evening!

We're doing some database and other light server maintenance this weekend (upgrading the version of MySQL we use in particular, but also probably doing some CDN work.)

I expect all of this to be pretty invisible except for some small "couple of minute" blips as we switch between machines, but there's a chance you will notice something untoward. I'll keep an eye on comments as per usual.

Ta for now!

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Nogami Yaeko was born in 1885 in Usuki, Oita, way down south in Kyushu, to a merchant family handling sake, soy sauce, and miso (their soy sauce company is still in business today). Her maiden name was Kotegawa. After studying literature and poetry with private tutors, at fifteen she went to live with an uncle in Tokyo and attend the Meiji Girls’ School. Shortly after graduation, aged twenty-one, she married Nogami Toyoichiro, then a student of English literature and a landsman from Usuki; they had met when she engaged him as an English tutor. The following year, Toyoichiro introduced her to the author Natsume Soseki, who looked over her short stories and gave her her first publication credit in the magazine Hototogisu. Although—as a young married woman from the provinces with only a high school education—she was not permitted to take part in the “Thursday Meeting” literary gatherings held at Soseki’s home, her husband passed on to her the content of the discussions there in detail. (Among the participants there was the novelist Naka Kansuke, with whom Yaeko fell briefly and turbulently in love, although he does not seem to have reciprocated; they were to meet again as friends many years later.)

More inclined to male than female friends, in early marriage Yaeko did enjoy the company of Ito Noe, when they were both writing and raising young children. Later on she was to become close to Chujo (Miyamoto) Yuriko, as a mentor and also an admirer of Yuriko’s intellectual brilliance. Yaeko disapproved strongly, however, of Noe’s disruptive relationship with Osugi Sakae, and envied Yuriko’s domestically free and easy life with Yuasa Yoshiko, although it was she who was instrumental in introducing the two).

Her writing in her twenties was largely poems and short stories, sometimes left-leaning, which she published in mainstream literary journals as well as Hiratsuka Raicho’s Seito (although she was never closely affiliated with Raicho’s Bluestockings; it was Raicho’s one-time lover Morita Sohei whose professional clash with Toyoichiro set Hosei University on end for almost ten years in the 1930s). In the 1920s she began to write historical novels as well; she also cooperated with her husband on a Japanese translation of Pride and Prejudice, which inspired her to write the contemporary novel Machiko (also said to have been influenced by Yuriko’s novel Nobuko. She also translated Heidi, Lamb’s Tales from Shakespeare, and books by Selma Lagerlöf and Sonya Kovalevskaya. A trip through Europe with her husband just as World War II was beginning produced a travelogue considered a valuable record of the time.

From her late thirties on, as her three sons (all of whom survived the war and, like her husband, became eminent professors) grew older, Yaeko spent part of her time at a villa in the Karuizawa resort area, choosing to live apart from her husband (who died in 1950) and write in peace. After the war, she and Yuriko rekindled their friendship to help organize the New Japanese Literary Association (after Yuriko’s death in 1951, Yaeko sent her widower, Miyamoto Kenji, flowers on the yearly death anniversary; in return he sent flowers to her on the anniversaries of Toyoichiro’s death or rather his second wife did, typical of Miyamoto Kenji, a world-class shit). In 1953 she interviewed Eleanor Roosevelt upon the latter’s visit to Tokyo. She continued to produce poetry and fiction of all kinds throughout her life; in addition, her many years of diaries are full of sharp-eyed and opinionated observations on the people she knew, including most of the famous literary figures of the day, as well as major historical events from the 1923 Great Kanto Earthquake to the accession of Chairman Gorbachev. At sixty-eight, she had a love affair with the philosopher Tanabe Hajime, also resident in Karuizawa; they exchanged some three hundred letters. Serving as the honorary principal of the Hosei University Girls’ High School, she instructed the students “Be a person first, then a woman.” She died in 1985 at the age of ninety-nine.

Sources
Mori 2008

Palestine/Gaza

23/10/25 20:25
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Even though there is ostensibly a ceasefire in place, not enough aid is getting in, Israel is also bombing Lebanon despite the ceasefire they agreed to with the Lebanese, and Israeli settlers beat Palestinian farmers during their olive harvest in the West Bank

So 1 thing I've been doing is joining a weekly Zoom "Power Hours for Palestine" every Thursday at 9am PST. Feel free to join me. Today we called our reps regarding HR 3565, sent a few letters, and were updated on different things going on. It's hosted by Rising Majority

Also a Jews Demand Action letter toolkit, signed by many including Spencer Ackerman, Debra Winger, etc. 

Since last I posted:
Some things to read/watch:Places to donate to:
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Just attended the livestream - recording can be viewed here:
https://www.youtube.com/live/4v2p3NwsMg0

Lots of talking and encouragement, also a lot of stories and photos from Saturday. On the livestream:
Moderator: Ashlee-Woodard Henderson (activist)
Speakers: Ezra Levin (co-executive director of Indivisible), Hunter Dunn (LA Host, National Press Coordinator 50501), Lisa Gilbert (co-executive director, Public Citizen), Maribel Hernández-Rivera (National Director of Immigrant Community Strategies), Jiggy Geronimo (Narrative Strategist)

Final message: find your local community.

Resources linked:
- https://brandfolder.com/indivisibleproject/no-kings-know-your-rights (cards to print and distribute in English, Vietnamese, Traditional Chinese, Tagalog, Simplified Chinese, Korean, Haitian Creole, French, and Arabic)
- Text SHUTDOWN to 30403 to get a script from the Working Families Party to leave a message with your Senator to encourage them to hold the line during the shutdown and keep fighting against Trump's health care cuts and price increases, followed by them calling you to connect.
- There's also a QR code in the video to connect you to the Stop the Healthcare Heist! Week of Action.

AWS outage

20/10/25 10:11
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DW is seeing some issues due to today's Amazon outage. For right now it looks like the site is loading, but it may be slow. Some of our processes like notifications and journal search don't appear to be running and can't be started due to rate limiting or capacity issues. DW could go down later if Amazon isn't able to improve things soon, but our services should return to normal when Amazon has cleared up the outage.

Edit: all services are running as of 16:12 CDT, but there is definitely still a backlog of notifications to get through.

Edit 2: and at 18:20 CDT everything's been running normally for about the last hour.

Creative Jam

18/10/25 01:07
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Welcome to the 148th Crowdfunding Creative Jam! This session will run Saturday, October 18-Sunday, October 19. The theme is "Knowledge vs. Ignorance."

Crowdfunding Creative Jam

Everyone is eligible to post prompts, which may be words or phrases, titles, images, etc. Prompters may request a specific creator, but everyone else may still use that prompt if they wish. Prompts may specify a particular character/world/etc. but creators may use the prompt for something else anyway and post the results. Prompters are still encouraged to post mostly prompts that anyone could use anywhere, as this maximizes the chance of having creators make something based on your prompt. Please title your comment "Prompt" or "Prompts" when providing inspiration so these are easy to find.

Prompt responses may also be treated as prompts and used for further inspiration. For example, a prompt may lead to a sketch which leads to a story, and so on. This kind of cascading inspiration is one of the most fun things about a collective jam session.

Everyone is eligible to use prompts, and everyone who wants to use a given prompt may do so, for maximum flexibility of creator choice in inspiration. You do not have to post a "Claim" reply when you decide to use a prompt, but this does help indicate what is going on so that other prompters can spread out their choice of prompts if they wish.

Creators are encouraged, but not required, to post at least one item free. Likewise, sharing a private copy of material with the prompter is encouraged but not required. Creative material resulting from prompts should be indicated in a reply to the prompt, with a link to the full content elsewhere on the creator's site (if desired); a brief excerpt and/or description of the material may be included in the reply (if desired). It helps to title your comment "Prompt Filled" or something like that so these are easy to identify. There is no time limit on responding to prompts. However, creators are encouraged to post replies sooner rather than later, as the attention of prompters will be highest during and shortly after the session.

Some items created from prompts may become available for sponsorship. Some creators may offer perks for donations, linkbacks, or other activity relating to this project. Check creator comments and links for their respective offerings.

Prompters, creators, and bystanders are expected to behave in a responsible and civil manner. If the moderators have to drag someone out of the sandbox for improper behavior, we will not be amused. Please respect other people's territory and intellectual property rights, and only play with someone else's characters/setting/etc. if you have permission. (Fanfic/fanart freebies are okay.) If you want to invite folks to play with something of yours, title the comment something like "Open Playground" so it's easy to spot. This can be a good way to attract new people to a shared world or open-source project, or just have some good non-canon fun.

Boost the signal! The more people who participate, the more fun this will be. Hopefully we'll see activity from a lot of folks who regularly mention their projects in this community, but new people are always welcome. You can link to this session post or to individual items created from prompts, whatever you think is awesome enough to recommend to your friends.
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Yanagiwara Byakuren was born in 1885 in Tokyo, originally named Akiko, the child of Count Yanagiwara Sakimitsu and his concubine Okutsu Ryo. Her aunt Naruko was a concubine of the Meiji Emperor and the mother of his heir. In 1900 Akiko was pulled out of school to marry Viscount Kitakoji Suketake, but she found him both cruel and childish, and five years later, divorced at the age of twenty and leaving her son Isamitsu with her ex-husband’s family, she returned home.

She began to attend the Toyo Eiwa Girls’ School, where she became friends with Muraoka Hanako, as well as studying waka poetry with Sasaki Nobutsuna and his group, encountering luminaries like Ishikawa Takuboku and Yosano Akiko.

As a nobleman’s daughter and one of the famed “Three Beauties” of the period (along with Kujo Takeko, later a close friend of hers, and Hayashi Kimuko), Akiko was a desirable quantity even as a bluestocking divorceé. In 1917 she was married again to Ito Den’emon, a Kyushu coal miner turned self-made mine owner twenty-five years older than she, who paid her family a colossal bride-price. She found herself living with a collection of his and his relatives’ children as well as his mistresses in various guises, doing her best to have her stepdaughter Shizuko educated at her alma mater, but finding life there very difficult. Isolated, lonely, abused and bored in Ito’s luxurious residence in the Chikushi coal fields, Akiko threw herself into her poetry, adopting the pen name Byakuren or “white lotus.” Her first collection, Fumie (the name of the icons Japanese Christians were forced to tread on to prove they had given up the faith) had been published in 1915; by 1919 she had published two more collections and a play.

It was through her play’s serialization in the magazine Kaiho [Liberation] that she met its editor Miyazaki Ryusuke. Seven years younger than she, the son of the philosopher and social activist Miyazaki Toten, Ryusuke took after his father’s socialist tendencies. In 1921, Byakuren traveled with her husband Ito for a visit to Tokyo. Ito returned first to Kyushu; after seeing him off, Byakuren disappeared—but not before writing him a Dear John letter and having it published in the Asahi Shimbun newspaper. (“This is the last letter I shall write to you as your wife… I have chosen this path through the dictates of the best of my rationality and bravery.” Outlining her efforts to make her marriage work and her misery in Ito’s household, she went on “Fortunately, I have been granted someone who loves me, and through that love I am trying to recover myself now… With all my strength I now bid farewell to you, ignorer of women’s personal dignity, and leave you in order to protect and develop my individual freedom and honor. PS: I am sending my jewels back to you by registered mail.”) She and Ryusuke had eloped. Sensational in all its aspects, the event became known as the “Byakuren Incident.”

Her birth family tracked them down and kept her prisoner in their home for some time, during which her (and Ryusuke’s) son Kaori was born. In 1923 she and Den’emon were officially divorced; she and Ryusuke promptly married. He was ill for some years with tuberculosis, during which time Byakuren kept the family afloat with her writing while her mother-in-law Tsuchi saw to the house and the children (Tsuchi, who had more or less eloped with her husband Toten and seen their family through the ups and downs incurred by his passionate activism, was an old hand at all this). After Ryusuke’s recovery, he returned to political activism while Byakuren continued to write and publish poetry and short stories, starting a poetry magazine in 1934. Their daughter Fuki was born in 1925; she and Byakuren’s son with her first husband, Kitakoji Isamitsu, both became poets in adulthood (Isamitsu, whose feelings about his mother remained complicated to the last, spent some of his adolescence living with her new family).

In 1945, four days before the end of World War II, Kaori was killed on the battlefield. In response, Byakuren formed a bereaved mothers’ association which developed an international reach in its work toward peace and international understanding. She died in 1967 at the age of eighty-two, tended in her old age by Ryusuke and Fuki. (The former Ito residence was opened to the public in 2007, featuring a ceremony in which Ito Den’emon’s grandson Dennosuke, Shizuko’s son, shook hands with Akiko’s grandson Koseki.)

Sources
Mori 1996
Nakae
https://www.fujingaho.jp/culture/archives/g33452089/fujingaho115-culture-200731/ (Japanese) Photos and materials from the time
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1. Hi, Carolyn: I grew up in a very image-conscious family. I’ve always been “bigger,” which bothered my parents a lot. They were always on my case to lose weight, although it wasn’t having health impacts and I don’t have issues with physical fitness. Now that Ozempic is a thing, they have been dropping hints about that, too. I’ve tried gently having conversations about how their comments are hurtful, but they — especially my mom — get hostile and tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about. (They aren’t great at emotional discussions.)

I love myself generally and think I’m a cool person. But I’m in my early 30s, and I’ve never been in a relationship. I really don’t get romantic attention. I’ve been on a handful of dates from apps. This is hard. I naturally wonder whether my weight is the problem. But I can’t bear the idea that my parents were right this whole time, and I don’t want to hear the inevitable I-told-you-so’s if I do end up trying Ozempic.

I know a reasoned conversation isn’t going to stop them. And I know internally it’s going to kill me if I lose weight and start getting more attention; were they right and I was really that ugly this entire time? I have no idea how to wrap my mind around this problem. I’ve had a string of really unhelpful therapists, generally saying, “You’re not ugly, but you need years of therapy to heal ALL your childhood trauma and then maybe you’ll be able to find a relationship!” and I need a break from that.

Do you have any advice?


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2. Dear Carolyn: My sister and I had a really difficult childhood, but she definitely had it tougher than I did. For very good reasons, she severed all ties with our mom over 20 years ago, and, based on the way things happened, her daughters also chose to sever all ties with their grandmother.

My sister and I also were estranged for many years, but about six years ago, we rebuilt our relationship from the ground up and we are the best of friends now. That is, until Mom died a few weeks ago. My mom left her home and its contents to me. She was very clear on her wishes that I sell the home and split the money between my two children. It will be a significant amount of money. She left my sister a third of all remaining assets, which are minimal.

My sister is livid about the terms of the will, feeling like it was just another way to send her a message that she didn’t matter to our mom. I don’t know what Mom was thinking. If memory serves, she didn’t want to leave my sister entirely out of the will, but this has actually turned out to be worse.

This whole legal journey through probate is going to just keep taking my sister back to a past with ugly memories and lots of pain. How do I navigate this and keep my relationship with her? Do I reconsider how to allocate the money from the house to make things more fair — but go against my mom’s specific wishes?


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14/10/25 13:51
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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have now been to three weddings where I found out that the couple was already married, and just going through the motions.

The first was a couple who had gotten legally married weeks prior to the wedding so he could go on her health insurance.

The second was an older couple who said they’d never had a “real wedding.” That made me think they hadn’t really been married all along, but it turns out they had been; they just hadn’t had the kind of event they’d wanted.

The last one, which sent me over the brink, was our college friends. Since our larger friend group is now spread out in different cities, this couple traveled around, repeating the wedding ceremony to “save people the expense of traveling.”

My mother asks me why I care if people want to make fools of themselves, and why I can’t just “be nice” and celebrate with my friends. The answer is because I’m expected to go along with this farce and play the Wedding Guest: dressing up, sitting through it all, congratulating them, and -- here’s the main part -- spending serious money to buy them something from their registry list.

In fact, I’m expected to do all of the above many times over, if I go to their pre-wedding (but post-marriage!) parties, which I try to avoid. Am I right or wrong?


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