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librarygeekAnything anyone can get me about the Rappahannock Native Americans: death, grieving, and mourning customs would be greatly appreciated. I offered to speak at whatever memorial service is done, as interfaith rabbinic pastor ordination student and friend of the family.
My friend's mom died while having the cardiac surgery I expected for myself since I was ten years old. No, I'm not good right now, but I don't want to upset anyone's ancestors either, so I'm asking for help and hopefully respectfully. I might contact the public phone number for the Rappahannock Nation, but to do that, about probably a very well known cousin (My friend's grandfather was either Chief or an Elder for the Rappahannock, his children should have known names, even if not enrolled) has shades of Germans sending condolences to me about my cousins dead in the Holocaust.
I understand circles of grief. Comfort in, reaching is outwards. I know people here, who know other Native Nations at least.
FB death notice by my friend phrased as: At 1:19 today, P K joined the ancestors. May she be remembered always.
My friend's mom died while having the cardiac surgery I expected for myself since I was ten years old. No, I'm not good right now, but I don't want to upset anyone's ancestors either, so I'm asking for help and hopefully respectfully. I might contact the public phone number for the Rappahannock Nation, but to do that, about probably a very well known cousin (My friend's grandfather was either Chief or an Elder for the Rappahannock, his children should have known names, even if not enrolled) has shades of Germans sending condolences to me about my cousins dead in the Holocaust.
I understand circles of grief. Comfort in, reaching is outwards. I know people here, who know other Native Nations at least.
FB death notice by my friend phrased as: At 1:19 today, P K joined the ancestors. May she be remembered always.
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20/3/19 22:35 (UTC)(no subject)
20/3/19 22:41 (UTC)Well ...
21/3/19 10:43 (UTC)However, as a general rule, people like to be asked. Since you're interfaith clergy who will be speaking at a memorial service, it's reasonable to contact the tribe and ask about their do-and-don't list. The worst that can happen is they'll bite your head off, which would suck -- but the best is that not only would you get good input, they would then know about you as a tribal-friendly interfaith person in case anyone over there needs such a thing.
Yes, racial relations are a mess in this country. It's never going to get better if people don't reach across and try to fix it. You can't change the past. You can change the present.
For what it's worth, I tend to start interfaith event design by looking for common ground. Lots of traditions use candles or incense, for example. If you can get someone talking with you, it might be possible to find overlaps like that.