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My mom died in August 2006, before I turned 34, my middle sibling had just turned 30, and our youngest sibling wasn't 24 yet. That was hard.
My dad psychologically died within 2 years of her death, the loss of his wife of 36 (double chai) years was too much for him, I guess.
He, previously a Reform synagogue president, moved to North Carolina, and married a Hebrew Christian woman who has been taking care of him. He didn't even tell us his children when he remarried.
My father is dying now, and I'm dealing with anger at how he treated us, relief that he won't be in any more pain, and trying hard to avoid his second wife, who seems to feel that getting me, a rabbinic student, baptized and following her vision of Jesus gets her afterlife brownie points (rolling eyes).
I've sent an audio recording of me singing the Vidui in proxy and my bedtime Shema. My local Reform rabbi, previously an opera singer, might do a recording of Kol Nidre, All Vows, as well.
Ok, what my rabbi sent me was this, from a colleague who got this one recorded: https://youtu.be/ZyMWiGvhndY Kol Nidre, All Vows, may we all be forgiven for the oaths and promises that we have failed, if we tried in good faith to fulfill, first.
Right now, I can't forgive his apostasy to get a caregiver, but I know that Shekhinah forgives him, and that's enough. I don't know what comfort there is for me right now.
If you're not on my access list, I'm screening comments. I'll probably let anything I would be comfortable showing my youngest sibling, to be unscreened.
My dad psychologically died within 2 years of her death, the loss of his wife of 36 (double chai) years was too much for him, I guess.
He, previously a Reform synagogue president, moved to North Carolina, and married a Hebrew Christian woman who has been taking care of him. He didn't even tell us his children when he remarried.
My father is dying now, and I'm dealing with anger at how he treated us, relief that he won't be in any more pain, and trying hard to avoid his second wife, who seems to feel that getting me, a rabbinic student, baptized and following her vision of Jesus gets her afterlife brownie points (rolling eyes).
I've sent an audio recording of me singing the Vidui in proxy and my bedtime Shema. My local Reform rabbi, previously an opera singer, might do a recording of Kol Nidre, All Vows, as well.
Ok, what my rabbi sent me was this, from a colleague who got this one recorded: https://youtu.be/ZyMWiGvhndY Kol Nidre, All Vows, may we all be forgiven for the oaths and promises that we have failed, if we tried in good faith to fulfill, first.
Right now, I can't forgive his apostasy to get a caregiver, but I know that Shekhinah forgives him, and that's enough. I don't know what comfort there is for me right now.
If you're not on my access list, I'm screening comments. I'll probably let anything I would be comfortable showing my youngest sibling, to be unscreened.
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